This news about the Rutgers freshman who committed suicide after his roommate videotaped and posted his sexual encounter with a guy is just heartbreaking. I've had a hard time trying to contain my emotions on this in order to do this post. There are so many questions that will remain unanswered. What drove Tyler Clementi to suicide over this? Did he think his family and friends wouldn't accept him? Had he really even accepted himself? Why would Clementi's roommate do something so invasive and foolish? Who could Clementi have talked to that could have prevented this?
Every GLBT person has been in that vulnerable position of not being sure if he/she will be accepted by family and friends, and some simply cannot handle the idea of having their truth known. I remember being completely scared all through college that my "secret" would be discovered, but I made it through, like millions of others. I just wish that someone that Clementi respected and loved could have been there to help him through this, to tell him that he should give things a chance to get better.